Dye, Dye, Dye My Darling (Veil)


Hello friends it’s been awhile, but for good reason…I’m getting married in less than a month!

As I am sure any of you who have planned a pretty DIY wedding know, it sucks up all your time and mental faculties, so boy am I ready for October 13! In the meantime I wanted to share a few not strictly photography related projects along the way.

For those who don’t know, the almost Mr and I are big wrestling fans and generally pretty non traditional so scrapping the white wedding princess vibes was a must. In place of billowing white satin and and Swarovski crystals we are opting for a wrestling ring and a Morticia Addams- Eat-Your-Heart-Out dress. Here is a background on our match of the century!

One of the big challenges for me has been finding wedding attire that is black as our collective souls, not too costumey and of a reasonable price because, let’s be real- in planning a wedding, everything costs $$$!

One of the best projects along the way was tackling the creation of a black veil. Most veils obviously are white. Most of those are pretty expensive. Occasionally companies make a yet more expensive black version but usually the color range is limited to “champagne”, “blush”, “rose gold” or other names for totally not black. So I set upon seeing if I could dye a white veil “actual black” to save a few doll hairs. I purchased a veil from a newly married lass and figured it was worth a shot. Here is where we started with my second hand veil attempting to live it’s brand new bold life.


Since the tulle I got was a poly blend I had to make sure my dye accordingly matched. Some tulle is apparently natural fiber based so in those situations grab the cotton based dye. Here is what I used:


I only ended up using black so the purple is just there for moral support. Bring a big ass pot of water to a boil on the stove and combine the dye. Use a pot you don’t ever plan on using again unless it’s for some other stupid project. That pot will never be your pasta pot again. RIP pasta pot.

The instructions provided will let you know if you need to add vinegar or any other nonsense. While that is happening OPEN A FUCKING WINDOW because it’s about to get nasty in there. Prepare a really lame looking work station and give your tulle a good rinse.


After it has properly taken a bath, it gets plopped into the pot at a simmer. Since I didn’t want to kill off any spoons I smooshed my veil around with some takeout chopsticks. You could probably use something smarter, but live your life.


Obviously the most important part of this is making sure you look REALLY cool while you are crafting. I think I accomplished this superbly. But real talk OPEN THOSE WINDOWS. Even with them open you might want to consider some kind of good ventilation or face mask. Since I am pretty dumb I went with this bandana.


I didn’t really need to stir this a ton but tried to keep flipping it over to ensure it dyed evenly. It’s a double layer cathedral length veil (in normal speak: that wicked long one, extra floofy) so there was a lot of terrain to cover but it wasn’t a full time stir by any means. Just keep an eye on it. The package recommended at least 30 min so I left it on the stove about 40 min total. It was pretty solidly saturated as early as 15 min though.


From there drain the dye and rinse, rinse, rinse this bad boy. Like rinse after you think you are done rinsing and then rinse some more. If you have some Woolite detergent wash it with that. This dye was S-T-I-N-K-Y and needed a few passes.

The package says wash it in the washing machine but if I were you I would skip that. My trusting ass put the VERY WELL WASHED veil in the dryer on air dry and well…that’s how I ended up with a goth dryer and a not stoked fiance. Don’t be like me. Just leave that sucker outside for a bit.


But look, black veil. Super black, not grey, not weird maroon black, or brown purple, ACTUAL black! Hooray!


Here is where I will glue the comb back on and probably sneak in some glittery stars or something because I’m drunk on power now.



Projects aside my bridal shower last weekend was by far the biggest hi-light of this whole intense planning experience.

Hosted by a couple of my most favorite people (Hi Kim and Audrey!), a group of us got our fancy on with a proper tea party at Rose & Blanc teahouse in Los Angeles. We got to sit in the most pink room ever, eat tiny sandwiches, scones that actually tasted good and an array of pastries too adorable for me to even describe, you know…PLUS TEA. Really, really good tea. That troublemaker pal of mine with the purple feather tried to stump our tea associate by asking which was the “least popular” tea (sage tea turns out) and ordered it and even lowest ranking tea was incredible!


Our incredibly thoughtful hosts treated each of us to fascinators or hair flowers so we all looked like we were off to the races. We played some bridal shower games that taught us about the origins of a bunch of traditions (SPOILER ALERT: everything is to ward off evil spirits, watch out vengeful ghosts invited to weddings) everyone had an incredible time and I had the absolute most magical day. I feel like usually when people say “magical day” they are exaggerating but look at that place!


Best photographer pal Aurelie Davis (>>>>www.aureliedavis.com<<<<<) went above and beyond snapping these shots which meant a ton to me because everyone knows when you invite a photographer to an event as a guest you never say “maybe you should bring your CAMERA”. If you don’t know this, now you know. Don’t be the worst. Be the best, like Aurelie. I got so distracted with real life fun I didn’t take a single photo so thank you again for saving the day, and thank you to everyone who made this day and this whole wedding experience fun…or at least let me FB messenger you while I was stressed about tamales.

Only a 4 weeks left to go! Fingers crossed!

Until next time,

Happy snacking.


(Soon to be Mrs.) RP

(all bridal shower photos by Aurelie Davis in case you missed me subtly pointing that out. She is really good at photo taking and a very nice human. You should probably hire her.)